Sending your parents into a home?

I have never thought about it much but one question was raised at dinner last night with my in-laws; that is whether to put them in a home when they get old.

Being the only son in a traditional Asian family, I have been raised to carry the burden of taking care of everyone and everything in the family so that thought has never come across my mind. However, I have my own parents to look after aside from my own family as well as work, I am starting to explore that possibilities for my in-laws. This has obviously caused a huge huge argument or fight you should say with my wife because she's their only child. She thinks that I was being selfish for worrying only my own parents; not hers.

What to do? I am only human and I can only do so much. Am I wrong here??

Have ya'll thought about it too for your parents?

 

no there yet.... and i doubt i will need to put my parents in a home...

 

I would never... EVER put my own parents in a home, unless they themselves wanted to... In-Laws on the other hand would be a hard call... my situation's a lot easier because I have younger siblings who will be able to support my own parents, so if it was necessary, I would be able to support my In-laws as well...

but if I was in your situation, I would minimize the problems NOW, and instead of actually having to support them for their every needs in the future when they can't support themselves, find a way to eliminate some of those needs... for example finding a permenant and stable area to live in, maybe some investments, etc...

 

i wouldnt send them into a home... its realy up to them as to where they want to stay

 

if they seriously needed sum1 to look after them, u can always hire a maid or carer to look after them at home

else u could always make decision to have wife not work n b a house wife that also looks after them =)

 

yer, your parents will always get angry if they put them in a home, maybe its just like chinese parents, but its kinda like disrespectful or something

 

i would never put them in a home unless they want to and have friends in the home which will probably be better....but i dream of buying my parents a condo or apartment to live in when they retire but i guess it won't happen however i will neeed to take care of them even though so many things goin on between us..they're still my parents and without them there is no me

 

My grandpa is in a home right now and I'll tell you that it's the most depressing place I've ever been to.