well, i really wana know how 2 really sort out me lyf...i ave no sense of security or well-bein...my parents love me n wd do anythin 4 me...but me? i dont giv anything gd in return =(...arguing wit me parents, has become sooooo tiiirrrrinnn...n nw - ive actualy thought 4 them 4 lyk the 1st tym in me lyf...theyve had 2 go thru so mch pain n sufferrin due 2 me...whilst i'll do wateva it takes, 4 sometin 2 come in my way. My selfish, arrogant , greedy behaviour has gt some1 i really care 4 - no him since 5...2 h8 me until now...n sometyms when i feel i can do sometin ryt, it always go wrong. My behaviour has gt me - finkin...about the future, how this could get worser by the tym i hav kids. I dont wana get bullied by them, n even i did, i would neva hurt me kids...i feel i hav bad luck 2 b passed around, unoticed...n once 2day, i had some premonition, when me parents r about 2 go - ..heaven.. - i would be the 1 responsible, as i could of done somethin b4 2 change all that n mke me parents proud.. i even made a promise 2 a loved one - hu passed away - that i would love my parents n honour them...but i dunno how i could really build better relationships wit em..=(..any thoughts / advise 2 lend me...4rm any1?
everyone at one point or another in their life will think that their life is the worst. concentrate on the good aspects in your life and what makes you happy and you'll turn your life around in no time. granted, the negative aspects are more apparent but only because you give them so much attention. try focusing on your hobbies, sports or something you enjoy doing or hang out with some friends and don't do anything serious and just have fun. love is the number one thing that will make people go either insanely happy or the extreme opposite. if it's meant to be, it's meant to be and you'll know it. ask yourself if it's infatuation or if you really love someone too. maybe you'll find out you really don't like a girl as much as you think you do. you know, sometimes the girl of your dreams is the girl you never really notice.
cant afford 1 =P...im gonna just hav 2 give all i can 2 turn me lyf around, so i cn feel more good about meself n other people i care about wud feel gud about themselves 2wards me - especially me parents
sometyms i fukin feel i get no support from me parents - n jst now - they've started 1 argument on me - jst cos i hav me hair gelled, i dont dress like em - dress more lyk a student / adult...i feel so hurt n ashamed - i duno if it is jst me...i feel lyk its sometyms justified 2 argue ova me parents 2 get me own way...cos i sometyms fink theyre ashamed of a son lyk me ='(
im sorry but i couldn't read the whole thing... too many abbreviations and stuff. but hmm, i always feel guilty about taking my parents for granted. i want to show them i love them, but everything they do just kinda pisses me off - which results in yet another argument. usually i make it up to them by doing some house work haha, but i guess that doesnt really match what theyve been doing for me.
ya can read it now...well wat really pisses me off of me parents - is gettin told wat 2 do, wat 2 wear - like in the 90's - hair style where the hair gets combed to the side - sort of like in grease...i dont want 2 wear like me parents...n the bad fing is - they chat shit behind me n me sistas bk-sides when they fink we've done anythin wrong or argue wit em...they chat shit bout ppl - 2 a point that a relative of myn - has rely exploded - they don't c each other anymorz...n that relative would h8 my parents 4 lyf - jst 4 chattin shit behind her bk...
wow that sounds an awful lot like my parents. in the 90s my parents dressed me and my sister up too (probably because we were actually little kids haha). these days we get to pick out our own clothes (some my dad doesnt really like when theyre like totally normal... = ='') but we just talk it over with them. i know my mom and dad talk to each other about me haha. i know my dad always pulls my mom aside and tells me i've gotten much fatter or w/e. and they're always so fricken paranoid that my sisters gonna go do some 'bad' stuff with her boyfriend when they KNOW she's one of those goody goody types who would never do anything bad. hell, she doesn't even swear. as for the relatives thing..... that's happened a lot to my family too. its tough, but in the end everyone gets over the whole thing.. still a bit awkward with them, but at least we talk a little now? how long ago did your parents and your relatives have this argument? just try to change your bad habits in baby steps. bad habits are always the hardest ones to break. pick one specific thing to work on, and when you perfect that, move on to the next one. you can do it! we're all rootin for ya! =]
i rely nd help...seriously...yh - probs 4rm a professional psychologist / psychiatrist - whicheva it is =P
Wow, you seriously like to type "words" in a funny way. It's alirght to read those once in a while, but like a bunch of them pop in your face making your paragraph hard to understand and makes me not to read it at all (Just my opinion). Anyways, just pratice being a better person. If you know you're think it's wrong to do it, it probably is wrong >.<
Well I've been through lots of stuff with my parents too cause when I was younger they'd NEVER let me out so when they split they kinda lost control and I started to kickit with the bad crowd and just all sorts of stuff but now that I've matured and stuff and I don't get arrested and shiz anymore things have been cool and since I buy my own clothes they can't really say anything to me about it. So I suggest you show them you understand now by acting more responsible and maybe get some responsibilities and just show them in little ways that you appreciate them I guess. For example, I came home around 3am today and was tired as hell but I saw a huge pile of dishes in the sink and I knew my mom was the one that was gonna wash em when she wakes up so I just washed em. Little things like that helps.. And about ur hair, just dye it blue like i did and shave off everything but the bangs and she'll be beggn you to have ur hair spiked. Show her things can be worse. As for a sense or security and well being, I think I know what ur talking about and I think that if you got a job and commit yourself to it and made friends outside of the crowd you kickit with maybe you'd appreciate that kind of environment and learn new things and somewhere along those lines ull start to feel better about yourself and I think that would make ur parents happy.
First off, WTF english is that in the original post? But pushing forward to address the OP, have you thought about why your parents do what they do? They are the only people who will give you unconditional love (something I don't believe even a spouse can do); given that, they have your best interest at heart and therefore want the very best for you, giving you advice they feel would benefit you the most. They may not understand what you're going through (eg fads and styles at school), but they know what works in the real world. You sound argumentative (re "why don't they see things my way") but have you tried seeing things THEIR way for a change. Why don't you just experiment and do exactly what they tell you and see how it works out for you. Maybe you'll find that they are right?
