Hi All, Firstly I am recently Married and both the Wife and I would like to have children... However, there is a little part of me which is in fear of the idea as I am worried I'll not be able to give the child a good life, or the child will grow up into a bad person, etc. How do I banish these forts?! Thanks, Tom
Your children follow in your footsteps..... you are the role model.... and just thinking about whether or not you will be able to provide for your children isn't going to do much as you will feel like you can't but when the time comes and you are holding that baby in your arms your entire world and lifestyle will change and you will work towards providing as much as you can for your precious gift. At least this is how I would feel when I have children of my own.
There's probably never a perfect, right time to have kids, or do anything that really matters in life. There will always be a time when you'll make more money, have a "better life" and grow to be wiser. But that shouldn't be what defines you as ready to have a child. If you have all these worries and concerns, it probably means that you've given this a lot of thought and you will probably love your child no matter what in the future. I think all these responsibilities (how to be supportive, to discipline, providing a good life...etc) will eventually fall into place. If parents really love the child, it is natural for them to give everything/the best they have and no one can say that that's not enough. Besides, people aren't born to know how to parent nor do they just turn a certain age and it comes to them. It's probably a lifelong process as long as you don't give up.
