This has probably been done and said countless times. But seriously though, Asian parents are so "ma fan", especially the ones that care TOO much. Such as my own. They're constantly on your back, yelling at whatever it is you're doing. It might possibly be because i'm still 16, that i dont fully appreciate and understand what it is that they're doing. Could someone give me some insight? Or if you've had a similar experience, how to handle these kinds of parents? :/ I've tried many ways to resolve the problem but nothing seems to work, they're still always trying to make me do things "their" way.
only thing to do is wait until ur 18 n move out i guess... their ur parents and they are most like not gonna change their ways so not much u can do abt it! Asian parents are a bit more strict but u shld see it as a good thing, at least they care enough to whine on ya!
depends if you want to play hard-ball with them or not i know of a few who've just moved out and left, and then eventually moved back the relationship with parents isn't the same, they'll care less... but still care, give u more freedom a lot of the things is about "face". if you move out / run away - just looks bad on them at the same time, as long as you can find a nice way to interact and get along, it's not too bad they'll always be "mafan". maybe if you just advise them of what you're going to do, and as long as they get the idea that your discussing stuff with them, they'll appreciate it more. either way, the decision and actions you do are you're choice - they're just there to give their opinion
Okay. first things first. Jeff, you're gay. it only 11 days. LOL. Back on topic. Its so irritating though, sometimes they care so much, that it seems as if they dont truly understand what im going through. They keep pushing me to do things that i dislike. i've told them countless times about it, but its always the same answer. "Once you start something, you can't stop until you're done" so i reply with "then how come you tell me to stop playing games" and then i get slapped. but yeah. thats the gist of it.
rofl... playing games nice come back =P ahhaha but if u look from ur parents pov, if u start something and just give up/stop later on in life, you'll wonder why u didn't finish it and how helpful it could have been there's many things that im sure we all find annoying and shitty with all the nagging, but go thru it for a while without all that stuff and sometimes you'll be like... wish there was someone there to do or advise u on all that stuff there's never a perfect world or situation, with the good comes the bad just work out a way that u can cope and survive =)
yeah but. if its something you dislike, theres really no point in continuing, you dont have the motivation and its a big waste of time since you're not really putting effort into it.
what are u doing that u don't like atm? how far into are u as well if ur still in early stages, change it to something u do actually want ur kinda "older" now, so u should know what u like or whta u don't if u change into something, and u quit not long after, for sure ur parents should get annoyed =P
psychology. i read up a lot of things about it. my parents plan on letting me do it in uni, but they always suggest strong hints that they dont want me to do it.
you will appreciate knowing how to play the piano in 5 years.... violin is a nice touch.... you are young.. i was in the same boat when i was your age... they are only trying to make sure you don't become a loser... opening multiple paths for you to take if one thing should not work you have back ups....
To be fair, unless you get a Masters Degree and a Phd with that, its a bit of a useless major. From a job-hunting perspective, or more precisely, your parents perspective.
do a bachelor in med/surgery and then specialise in pyschology and youll be set doing a science and majoring in pysch isn't as beneficial and harder to maintain and get recognised either way, thats more of a career... ur music is more of a hobby and extracurricular skillset that is nice to have and its better than having nothing
LOL at this thread, so I'm not going to sugarcoat this... No offense, but after reading this whole thread, just have to let you know, you really sound like a spoiled brat. Imagine, with the next ring of your cell phone (paid, no doubt, by those Ma Fan parents) the police inform you that both were killed in a car accident? Think you're really ready to cut those strings? I doubt it. You want the freedom from responsibility when you really haven't yet earned it. Further, do you think your parents really enjoy paying all that money for piano and violin lessons when they could be flying back on vacation to (HK, China, Taiwan, or wherever) with it? Hardly. So why to they do it? You don't realize how lucky you have it, so stop being an ungrateful dick. Do you know what your parent's want? Let me tell you because I have a few spoiled teenagers of my own; parents want kids to be able to support themselves in a life of relative luxury without breaking a sweat. But like I tell my kids, the only thing they're prepared to do right now is "Welcome to McDonald's, may I take your order?" Not too inspired, is it? And believe you me, I worry about my kids every day. Mostly, I worry that I drop dead before the little asses grow the hell up and learn to support themselves. All is not lost for you however. Here's a great plan for you to get your Ma Fan parents off your back: graduate summa cum laude with a Masters or PhD in anything that makes at least $100K per year, and then get that job. Start paying them back all the money they spent on your gameboys, nintendos, playstations, piano and violin lessons; set them up in retirement; get married and have a few grandkids that you bring over once a week for them to see; and you know what? Your parents can then let go. They'll drop dead but die happy. Until that point, mind your manners kiddo. The world's a really nasty place out there an NO ONE is going to coddle you or put up with your self centered bull shit like your parents will.
Hmm at 15 I was still in high school so it meant that parents were always on my back. It's not till I started sixth form/college and I was out of "school" I had more freedom to do whatever I want. With all those caring I just sucked it up and when it gets too much I liteally scream like a spoilt hormonic brat but that was because I get angry very easily and I get in trouble with them a lot. I was also forced to do so many extra ciricular activities when I was younger, but as time went by I showed less interest (and maybe because my parents care about money too), those forced activities were eventually dropped. Now that I am 21 and finished university, I miss the whole nagging and always caring like you are a baby attitude :( Only because I did move out when I was 17 then moved back home before I was 18 then left to go to uni for 3 years a year after that. It means that they know I can take care of myself so although I am living back at home now, I don't get all the nagging that I used to get when I was in high school and I miss it :( You should start appreciating and just suck it up. Also with that you wanted to do with school or whatever, just stand up for yourself about the whole you don't like music and want to do psychology. Standing for yourself at certain things will gain yourself respect from your parents. Just start learning to not retaliate at everything that they say and just do the smile and nod and walk off and do the minimalist thing that could please them. It will make your "ears" a lot less stressful Btw you sound like you are not the older child or the only child?
